Watching your parents get older and struggle to take care of themselves can be a devastating experience. But what is a cry for help, and what is normal aging? How can you determine if your elderly loved one can continue taking care of themselves, or if they need professional help to maintain their physical and emotional help? Here, I want to discuss a few questions that you can ask yourself to help you find the best option for your aging loved one. By reflecting on the reality of the situation that your family faces, you can make sure that your parent or other elderly loved one gets the help that they need.
Can I Take Care of My Loved One?
Many times, when an elderly person’s health starts to decline, you will take on more responsibility in helping them. Maybe they need someone to mow their lawn once a month. Or someone to help them get their medication from the pharmacy. These are occasional favors that you can do for your parent. But, if they start needing daily help, you might not be able to handle this on your own. Think about the extent to which you help your parent. Do you have to go over to their house every day to check on them? Do you find yourself getting more and more stressed out by all of the things that you need to do to help them? If this is the case, you may not be able to take care of them on your own anymore. You should look into nursing homes and other options.
Is My Loved One Safe at Home?
Living in a traditional home can become challenging for someone who is aging. The sheer size of a home and the upkeep required can become too much for your parent. In addition, if your loved one lives alone, they won’t have anyone to help them in the event of an emergency. Are they having trouble getting up and down the staircase? Have they fallen down with no one to help them get back up? Has your loved one experienced a medical issue that they didn’t have help with in the moment? At a certain point, it could become dangerous for your loved one to live alone in their house. Some type of action should be taken to keep them safe.
Is My Loved One’s Health Worsening?
Does your loved one have a medical condition that is getting worse over time? Do they need daily medical attention, help taking medication, or a professional to frequently check in with their health? If this is the case, a nursing home might be the best thing for your parent. They can get the medical attention that they need, 24/7, if they live in a nursing home.
Making the Hard Decision
Determining that your parent should live in a nursing home is not a decision to be made lightly. But, in many situations, it can be the best thing for your family. Consider these three questions to help you make the right decision. For further assistance finding the right home, check the blog for more information about nursing homes. As always, you can contact me at 203-208-3065 with any questions.